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October 19, 2015 Bible Study — Train Yourself Physically and Spiritually

For today, One Year Bible Online links here. I was away over the weekend, Friday night through Sunday (October 16-18). I prepared today’s study before I departed, but published it at my normal time. I hope this does not cause anyone a problem.

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Proverbs 25:23-24

    This should not need stating, but unfortunately it does. If you spread gossip about someone, you will anger them as surely as a hurricane brings rain.

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Psalm 89:1-13

    I chose the King James Version for this psalm because the first verse from the KJV is a great song.

I will sing of the mercies of the Lord for ever: with my mouth will I make known thy faithfulness to all generations.

Yes, I will sing of the mercies of the Lord. And with my mouth, my hands, my writing I will make known His faithfulness to all generations.

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1 Timothy 4

    Paul warns against false teachers, some of whom teach that it is wrong to get married and wrong to eat certain foods. The key to recognizing false teachers is to look at their lives because they are hypocrites and liars. They teach one thing and do another, then either deny that they are doing it, or claim that when they do it it is not wrong. Elsewhere, Paul talks about marriage and makes it clear that many are called to do get married. Here, he repeats his stance that all food is blessed by God.
    We should not argue over secular ideas, about how secular society should be organized. This hits home to me. Instead, we should focus on training ourselves to be godly. This hits home to me because I find myself debating points which I do not believe we, as Christians, should be actively involved in on either side of the issue. In discussing this, Paul makes an aside which I think is often overlooked. He tells us that physical training is good. We should make an effort to train our bodies so that we are in good physical shape. However, we should make an even greater effort to train our minds and spirits so that we are in good spiritual shape.

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Jeremiah 33-34

    Jeremiah prophesied that even though God was about to bring disaster on Jerusalem, the day would come when all of Israel prospered once more. God will do so in a manner which will cause people of every nation to both fear and praise Him.
    Then Jeremiah condemned the leading citizens of Jerusalem for being hypocrites. They freed their slaves of Jewish descent in a very public manner. Then, as soon as no one was paying attention, they enslaved them once more. We see this very often with political leaders. They do something (such as passing a law) which does away with some abuse that angers people in a very public way, making sure that everyone knows that they did it. Then, a short time later, when everyone’s attention has moved on to something else, they quietly reinstate the abusive practice. The general populace may not notice, but God will and He will hold them accountable.

April 20, 2015 Bible Study

For today, One Year Bible Online links here.

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Proverbs 13:15-16

    The proverb writer tells us that those with good sense are respected, then he tells us part of what he means by good sense: thinking before you act (I believe that he would include speaking within the meaning of “act” for this proverb). On the other hand he tells us that the treacherous, or unfaithful, are headed for destruction. The treacherous, the unfaithful, are those who not only act without thinking first, but brag about doing so.

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Psalm 89:1-13

    The King James translation of the first verse of this psalm inspired the hymn, “I Will Sing of the Mercies of the Lord”. The sentiments of this psalm and that song should be ours. I will sing of God’s great faithfulness, of the fact that His love endures forever.

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Luke 20:1-26

    When Jesus was asked by what authority He took the actions He did, He responded by asking if John authority to baptize came from heaven or from man. Essentially, Jesus was asking them what sort of answer they would accept. This is a good example for us to follow when we are challenged on our faith and what we believe. Before we attempt to answer the question, let us make sure that there is an answer our questioners will accept. If every answer is the wrong answer, don’t bother to try.
    There is a common point between the parable of the evil farmers and the story about Jesus being questioned on taxation. In both cases, Jesus brings up the point of giving God what is God’s due. It is in Jesus’ answer on taxation that we get the clearest answer as to what is God’s due. Jesus asks whose image is on the coin used to pay the Roman tax. The answer is that Caesar’s image is on those coins. At which point Jesus says, “Give to Caesar what belongs Caesar, and give to God what belongs to God.” It is subtle, but this is a clear reference to Genesis 1:26. Since we are made in God’s image, it is ourselves which we are to give to God.
    I could go on for some time about this message. The government has claim to our money, since it is government laws which make that money in the first place. However, only God has claim to us, because it was God who created us and in the process put His image upon us. It is the nature of governments that they continually attempt to extend their authority over our very beings. If we fail to give our very selves to the service of God, we will gradually end up giving that service to the government, or some other authority which does not have legitimate claim to that service. This lesson is just another take on the lesson Jesus taught when He told us we must choose who we are going to serve, God Or Mammon?

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Joshua 21-22:20

    The story of the eastern tribes building an altar and the response of the rest of Israel gives us a lesson for dealing with those who we believe are behaving sinfully. Here is what happened. The people of Israel learned that the eastern tribes had done something. The only explanation they could think of for that action was something which violated God’s commands to the people of Israel. However, rather than assume that their explanation for the action of the eastern tribes was correct and passing judgment on them, they asked them why they had done what they had done. That is instead of acting on their assumptions they decided to check their facts. It is this model to which Jesus refers in Matthew 18 when He tells us how to deal with our fellow believers who sin.

October 19, 2014 Bible Study — Train Ourselves To Be Godly

For today, One Year Bible Online links here. I have been convicted over the last few weeks to seek to develop a disciplined prayer life. It is still a work in progress. Please pray for me, that the Holy Spirit may show me how to pray in a disciplined manner.

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Proverbs 25:23-24

    People react the same way to sly attempts to subtly defame others in much the same way they react to an unexpected cold rain.

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Psalm 89:1-13

    When I read this psalm, it immediately called to mind the song “I Will Sing of the Mercies of the Lord”. Of course that is because the opening of this psalm is the basis for that song. I want to make that first verse my life’s purpose.

  • I will sing of God’s great love.
  • With my mouth will I make known Your faithfulness to all generations.
  • This is a promise I have made to God in the past and I will keep that promise as long as He gives me the strength to continue.

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    1 Timothy 4:1-16

        Paul warns us against false teachers, people who teach against marriage and who teach special diets. It is OK to eat any food that we receive. When I read this, I think of the controversy over foods which were secretly prepared by Muslim rituals so that it would be “halal”. As a Christian, I do not care that food has been offered to the Muslim god (Muslims claim that they worship the Judeo-Christian God, but then, so did the worshipers of Baal). If someone points out that certain food has been prepared to be halal, I will not eat it, but only because of the person who pointed it out. All food has been made acceptable by the word of God. I will receive it and give thanks to God for it.
        Let us avoid myths and old wives tales. Instead of spending time debating and studying such things we should train ourselves to be godly. Just as professional athlete trains themselves physically, we should train ourselves to be godly. There are two aspects to any training. The first is learning the correct way to do what it is you are training to do. You can do this by reading the word of God and listening to instruction from godly people. The second step is practicing what it is you are training to do. Take the time to act in a godly manner around your fellow believers. Invite them to critique your “technique”. Remember to weight the advice you get according to how successful the person giving it is (but don’t ignore advice from people who themselves do not live godly lives, just remember the source).

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    Jeremiah 33-34:22

        The passage begins with a continuation of Jeremiah’s prophecy that, even though God was bringing death and destruction upon the people of Israel, one day He would restore them to the land and make them even more prosperous than they had ever been in the past. He would restore them to their land, make them more numerous than ever, and give them peace from all of their enemies. This promise extends to all of God’s people. The day is coming when the people of God, both those biologically descended from Abraham and those adopted by God through Christ, will live at peace in this world.
        The passage ends with Jeremiah condemning the people of Jerusalem. When the city was threatened by the Babylonian armies, the people, led by their king, freed those slaves they had who were Israelites (in a belated acknowledgement of a provision of the law of Moses). However, as soon as the Babylonian armies withdrew, they re-enslaved those they had freed. All too often we behave in a similar manner. When danger threatens, we call out to God and turn from our sins. We stop doing that which is wrong to those around us. Unfortunately, all too often as soon as the crisis is past, we return to our sins and treat those around us even worse than before. God’s punishment will be severe for such acts.

April 20, 2014 Bible Study — With My Mouth Will I Make Known…To All Generations

For today, One Year Bible Online links here.

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Proverbs 13:15-16

    The best and easiest way to gain people’s respect is to demonstrate good judgment. If you try to gain one person’s respect by betraying the trust of another you will end up facing your own destruction. There are people who are proud of the fact that they never plan anything and always act on impulse. This proverb reminds us that acting on impulse is foolish and while it sometimes works out for the best, it is better to think things through before taking action.

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Psalm 89:1-13

    I prefer the NIV for this psalm. This is probably because it is reminds me of the hymn, “I will sing of the mercies of the Lord” (which is based upon this psalm). I will make God’s faithfulness known to all generations. The first two verses are so appropriate today of all days:

I will sing of the Lord’s great love forever;
with my mouth I will make your faithfulness known
through all generations.
I will declare that your love stands firm forever,
that you have established your faithfulness in heaven itself.

It is because of God’s great love that Jesus was on the cross and because of that love that He rose from the dead. I will declare these facts for all to hear.

The Lord is risen!

He is risen indeed

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Luke 20:1-26

    When the teachers of religious law challenged Jesus to tell them where He had gotten the authority for His actions, He turned the tables on them. By asking them whether John’s authority came from heaven, or was merely from man, He pointed out to the crowd that the religious teachers were really asking Him for a human authority to justify His actions. The crowd watching this exchange would have recognized that Jesus was telling them that if they could not tell whether John’s authority came from heaven or from men, they would be unable, or unwilling, to accept that His authority came from heaven.
    The religious leaders were stung by Jesus’ remarks (and the parable He told after that confrontation). So they attempted to trap Him by asking if it was OK for Jews to pay taxes to Caesar. On the one hand, if Jesus said that it was not OK, they could have the Romans arrest Him and execute Him on grounds of stirring up rebellion. On the other side there were several angles they could use to diminish His standing with the crowds. First, paying taxes is never popular and a significant number of those who followed Jesus were just waiting for Him to start the rebellion against Rome. Second, and importantly, paying tax to Caesar could be interpreted as a form of idolatry since Caesar had declared himself a god.
    Jesus’ answer was wonderful in many ways. First, from the perspective of non-Jews, Jesus’ answer was that Jews should pay Caesar’s tax. This meant that the religious leaders could not use it to have the Romans arrest Him. Second, it contained a condemnation of those who raised the question (and showed that they were indeed trying to trap Him). They were carrying a coin which had Caesar’s image on it and which declared him a god. If they had been the type of people they wanted the crowd to think they were, they would not have been carrying such a coin. Finally, Jesus’ answer told them that while the coin bore Caesar’s image, and thus belonged to him, we bear God’s image, and thus belong to Him.
    Let us give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar, but let us never forget that we belong to God. Let us give all that we are to God’s service.

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Joshua 21-22:20

    Once Joshua had finished allotting land to all of the other tribes of Israel, the Levites approached him and the other leaders of Israel requesting that they be given towns and surrounding lands according to Moses’ instructions. Once all of the land had been allotted the Israelites finished taking control of the land and the tribes with land east of the Jordan returned home. Before they crossed over the Jordan to the East, those tribes built a large altar as a memorial to their connection to the Israelites living west of the Jordan. The rest of the tribes of Israel believed that they had built the altar as a separate place of worship from the one where the Tabernacle was located and gathered their forces to cleanse the land of this idolatry. However, before taking action they sent a delegation to discover the reasons for the eastern tribes decision to build this altar. This is an important lesson for us. Before we judge the actions of another group we should speak with them and learn what their motives were and their intentions are.

October 19, 2013 Bible Study — Training In Godliness

     I am using One Year Bible Online for my daily Bible study. For today, One Year Bible Online links here. I have found that by writing this daily blog of what I see when I read these scriptures, I get more out of them. I hope that by posting these ruminations others may get some benefit as well. In order to make that possible I read the passages and write my thoughts a day in advance. If you have any thoughts or comments regarding these verses or what I have written about them, please post them.

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Jeremiah 33-34:22

     God promised through Jeremiah that He would not abandon the descendants of Abraham. God had made a covenant with them and He would keep that covenant as long as day follows night and the universe shall endure. In addition, God had made a covenant that there would be Levites serving as His priests and a descendant of David ruling over His people.
     In the final portion of today’s passage, Jeremiah delivers a condemnation of the people of Jerusalem. In the Law God had told the people that when they obtained their fellow Israelites as slaves, they were to free them every seven years. However, the people of Israel had not followed this instruction. During a time when the people of Jerusalem were feeling threatened by the Babylonians, they entered into a covenant with each other and with God to free those Israelites whom they had as slaves. However, as soon as the threat subsided, they went back on their word and re-enslaved those they had freed.


     How often do we do something similar? We are feeling overwhelmed by threats and troubles. We examine our lives and discover those areas where we are acting in ways which we know are outside of God’s will. We turn to God and repent of our sins and turn away from those things we know are wrong. Only to resume those behaviors as soon as the situation gets a little better. Let us turn to God and live according to His will in bad times and in good.

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1 Timothy 4:1-16

     Paul tells us that there will arise hypocritical teachers who will lead some to abandon faith in Christ for teachings that are demonic. They will teach that certain foods are to be avoided and that people should not marry. He warns us that these teachers’ conscience will have been seared by their sins such that they see nothing they do as wrong. Paul tells us that all food was created by God to be received with thanksgiving.


     There are separate elements to what Paul is writing here that need to be noted. He tells us that there will arise false teachers who will justify any action they desire to take and who will feel no guilt at doing wrong, even things which they had taught were wrong for others to do. Further Paul teaches here that no food is “evil”. We are to give thanksgiving to God for whatever food we find to eat and offer prayers to God for His providing it to us. Paul’s teaching here is that the problem with any given food is not the food itself, but consuming it in excess (which is gluttony).

     Paul then continues to an instruction that stands as a challenge to me. He tells Timothy not to waste time arguing over “godless ideas and old wives’ tales”. Rather Timothy is to train himself to be godly. This instruction applies to us as well. I find it difficult not to argue with people about ideas which I find ludicrous. However, it seems to me that Paul is telling us here not to spend time arguing with people about ideas which are not part of the Gospel. Rather we are to train ourselves in godliness in a manner similar to that which athletes train themselves physically.
     Paul’s focus here is on spiritual training and discipline, but I think he is also recommending that we spend some time training our bodies as well. I need to work at being a positive example to everyone around me in all aspects of my life. As I read this today I realized that I need to develop a regimen of training to be godly that is similar to the regimen I would undergo if I was training to run a marathon, or compete in a competitive sport. I take part in a physical activity where some of those involved go through rigorous training in order to improve. They set up a training regimen and place themselves under the auspices of a mentor who points out aspects of their “game” that needs improvement. The mentor assigns them tasks to improve those areas. This seems to me a model which I should adopt for my walk as a Christian.

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Psalm 89:1-13

     This psalm reminds me to praise God every day of my life. God’s love for us will never fail. When I read this psalm, the hymn, “Great Is Thy Faithfulness”, began running through my head. I would post the lyrics here, but it is still under copyright. However, the key line for me today is, “all I have needed Thy hand hath provided.” God’s faithfulness and love will endure for eternity.

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Proverbs 25:23-24

     Today’s proverb warns us against seeking to seem clever by speaking negatively about someone behind their back.

April 20, 2013 Bible Study — Do I Belong to “Caesar” Or to God?

     Well, I am past my one year mark on this blog. I am excited about discovering what God has in store for me as I begin blogging about the passages a second time through. I hope that my writing has improved as I have gone along. I pray that God’s Spirit continues to move in me as I write this. The last few days the Spirit has really moved in my heart as I wrote my blog entries. I pray that He continues to do so and that I can take what the Spirit has been saying to me and put it into practice. Please pray for me on that score.
     I have been using One Year Bible Online for my daily Bible study for almost a year. For today, One Year Bible Online links here. I started writing this blog because the only way I can get myself to read the Bible everyday is to pretend that I am teaching someone about what it says to me. I hope that by posting these ruminations others may get some benefit as well. If you have any thoughts or comments regarding these verses or what I have written about them, please post them. I hope that the Spirit is moving in others through these posts as the Spirit has definitely been convicting me.

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Joshua 21-22:20

     After land had been allocated to all of the other tribes, the tribe of Levi came to Eleazar and Joshua to remind them that God had said through Moses that they would receive towns and surrounding pasture-lands among the other tribes rather than a separate allotment of land. At this point towns and their surrounding pasture-lands were chosen from the lands of the other tribes to be given to the Levites. The Levites were spread among the other tribes in proportion to the size of the various tribes.
     At this point Joshua called together the fighting men from the tribes granted lands east of the Jordan (Reuben, Gad and half of Manasseh) and told them that their promise had been fulfilled and sent them home. As they returned home, the men of the tribes with lands east of the Jordan River built an altar on the west bank of the Jordan River. The rest of the tribes gathered for war because of this. They sent a delegation to the tribes east of the Jordan demanding to know why they had built an altar. They told the tribes east of the Jordan that God had commanded them to offer sacrifices at only the one altar and that the whole of the nation of Israel would suffer if those from east of the Jordan violated this command.

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Luke 20:1-26

     When Jesus was teaching in the Temple the chief priests and teachers of religious law came to Him and demanded to know by what authority He did the things which He did (the context suggests that in particular they were asking by what authority He drove the merchants out of the Temple courts)? Jesus replies by first asking them where John the Baptist’s authority to baptize came from, from heaven or from men?
     The religious leaders discussed their answer among themselves. They knew that if they answered, “From heaven,” Jesus would ask them why they did not believe him? On the other hand, if they said John’s authority was merely of men, the crowd would likely assault them, since the crowd believed that John was a prophet. Even if the crowd did not react violently, the religious leaders would have lost the respect of the crowd if they declared that John’s authority merely came from men. So, they told Jesus that they did not know.
     Jesus then told them that He would not answer their question either. I am pretty sure that the crowd would have interpreted Jesus’ answer as saying that His authority came from the same place as John’s. Jesus was pointing out that we have to make a decision. Either John’s (and His) teachings were merely from men and could be safely ignored, or they were from God and needed to be followed. This is too important a subject to be undecided on. This is still true today.
     Jesus then tells the parable of sharecroppers who refuse to give what was due to the representatives of the landowner, even going so far as to kill his son. Jesus tells the crowd that the landowner will return, kill those sharecroppers and find others to tend the vineyards. He then quotes Psalm 118:

‘The stone that the builders rejected
has now become the cornerstone.’

That anyone who stumbles over this stone will be broken to pieces and those it falls on will be crushed. I think His meaning was that if we try to build our lives without incorporating Him and His teaching we will constantly stumble over Him and be broken. And if we try to build our lives with Him at some place other than as the foundation, what we have built will come apart and He will “fall” on us, crushing us. Have I rejected the cornerstone? Or have I made it my foundation?
     The leaders then sent spies pretending to not be connected to them to ask Jesus a question. They approached Him and, after proclaiming what a wonderful, honest teacher He was, they asked Him if it was right to pay taxes to Caesar or not? They were trying to trap Jesus. If He said that it was wrong to pay taxes to Caesar, they could have Him arrested and executed for sedition. On the other hand, if He said that it was right to pay taxes to Caesar, the people would lose respect for Him. Jesus knew exactly where they were going and asked them to show Him one of the coins used to pay the tax. He then asked them whose image and inscription were stamped on it. To which the questioners replied, “Caesar’s.” Jesus then told them to give to Caesar what was Caesar’s and to God what was God’s. Jesus’ answer was more than just clever. When He asked them whose image and inscription were on the coin, the words He used would have reminded His listeners of the command that they were to make no images of God and that they were to have no other gods. Jesus answer would have served two purposes. The first would have been that even carrying such a coin should be construed as idolatry by the same standard that said that it was wrong to pay taxes to Caesar.
     The other purpose was more subtle and has relevance to us today. Jesus was also reminding the people that Caesar was making claims to authority that belonged to God. Caesar claimed to be the source of safety and security. He claimed that everyone owed their life to him. Caesar proclaimed that one’s primary loyalty was to him. All governments throughout history make similar claims, to some degree this is a product of the nature of government. Governments which declare that all of their citizens be part of a particular religion are attempting to get around this by saying that one’s loyalty to God (or gods) is through the government sanctioned “Church”. The Founding Fathers of the U.S. attempted to address this by placing the freedom of religion in the First Amendment to the Constitution. I do not think they were successful, but it was an attempt to address the issue of government putting itself in the place of God. It is important to realize that Jesus’ answer is not about taxes. It is about where our loyalty lies. A simplistic look at Jesus’ answer, which gets most of the point, is that the coin that is used to pay taxes to Caesar has Caesar’s image on it, so it “belongs” to him. But that YOU have God’s image on you, so you belong to God.

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Psalm 89:1-13

     The psalmist declares that he will sing of God’s unfailing love and faithfulness. That he will do all in his power to see that everyone knows of God’s wonderful power. I will strive to do the same. I will declare God’s mighty power and is everlasting love. There is no being nor institution which can compare to the power of God. I will praise Him as long as I draw breath.

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Proverbs 13:15-16

     If we demonstrate good sense, people will respect us. On the other hand those who cannot be relied on are heading for destruction. Those who are wise think and plan before they act. The foolish not only act without examining the consequences, they are often proud of this fact.

October 19, 2012 Bible Study

     I am using One Year Bible Online for my daily Bible study. For today, One Year Bible Online links here. I have found that by writing this daily blog of what I see when I read these scriptures, I get more out of them. I hope that by posting these ruminations others may get some benefit as well. If you have any thoughts or comments regarding these verses or what I have written about them, please post them.

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Jeremiah 33-34:22

     God gave Jeremiah a prophecy for Jerusalem. God was going to destroy Jerusalem because of the wickedness of the people, but He would restore them again after a time. Those who wish to stop counting Israel among the nations had better rethink because God has made a covenant with the descendants of Jacob and He will not break it. God will never abandon the people of Israel.
     Jeremiah had another prophecy for the people of Jerusalem. At the king’s command, the wealthy of Jerusalem had freed their slaves who were descendants of Jacob. However, after a short time, they found excuses to force those they had freed back into slavery. Jeremiah condemned them for this and told them that God would bring punishment to them for their wicked acts. The people had made a token of obeying God’s commands, but did not follow through and obey the spirit of those commands. For this, they were condemned. Do we do the same? Do we see some area where God is calling us to be more faithful and we make a nod in the direction of following His will, only to go back to our old ways after a short time?

1 Timothy 4:1-16

     Paul tells Timothy that there will come people who teach that it is wrong to get married and people who teach that it is wrong to eat certain foods. Paul however tells us that God created those foods to be eaten with thanksgiving. We should not reject any food, but instead we should eat it with thanksgiving to God for meeting our needs.
     We should not waste time arguing over old wives tales or godless ideas. Instead we should train ourselves to be godly the same way that a professional athlete trains themselves to compete in their sport. How do we train ourselves to be godly? When you train yourself to compete in athletic events there is a series of things that you need to do that build on each other. I may be reading more into what Paul is writing here than he intended, but it appears to me that he tells Timothy (and us) how to train to be godly. For athletes, the first step is build your conditioning and strength. For Christians, the first step is to read the Scriptures. The next step for athletes is to work on learning the moves particular to that sport. For Christians, the next step is encouraging our fellow believers. Finally, athletes study film to learn how to counter what their opponents are going to do. For Christians, this step is teaching others what we have learned from reading the Scripture. I am sure there are flaws in the way I have fleshed out this analogy, but I think there is some merit to looking at it that way. The important point is that training ourselves to be godly is hard work. We need to discipline ourselves to it and strive to build ourselves up in serving god in the same way that a successful professional athlete strives to constantly improve his game.
     We need to live our lives as an example to other believers. This involves what we say, the way we live, the way we show love to others, how we express our faith and our purity. We should not neglect the spiritual gifts we have been given and we need to stay true to what is right.

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Psalm 89:1-13

     Are we like the psalmist? Do we sing of God’s unfailing love? Do all of those around us hear of how wonderful and powerful God is? Both young and old alike? There is no one as mighty as God and He is entirely faithful. I need to work at expressing my faith more openly to those around me. God I pray that you give me both the words to say and the courage to say them, so that others may know that I believe.

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Proverbs 25:23-24

     Those who gossip cause people to become angry. Either at the target of their gossip, or at themselves. Both are things that we should avoid. The second of today’s proverbs is one that I am happy to say involves a choice that I have not had to make. There are two messages here. To men who are single the message is this; if the woman you are dating is always finding fault, run away, run far away. To all who are married, think about what you are doing, are you arguing about something because you are attempting to improve the one you love and your life together, or are you arguing because you want to change them to make things better for yourself (or for some other reason other than the first one I mentioned)? If you are doing the latter, you are making the other’s life unhappy for no good reason. Even though the proverb refers to a quarrelsome wife, it can be just as true the other way as well.